In this day and age, few and far between are the people that truly recognize the hard work, sacrifice, and dedication that is required just to be mom in today’s world and raise a family. Unfortunately, this heroic and valiant effort far too often goes unnoticed by modern day society, being that female success has come to revolve around individual success and professional accolades. We don’t hesitate to shine a spotlight on the mom’s who have graduated from a university with a professional degree and a prosperous career or an outstanding resumé, but fail to have consideration for the moms that have given up their personal dreams and goals to dedicate their time and effort to raising their families, constructing a tight-knit home, and being the best moms they can be in their own unique way.
Here we share a few stories of moms that have given up (but not forgotten about) some of their bucket list goals to commit to raising their children.
I fell deeply in love with my fianceé, Pablo, got married at the young age of 18. I had the dream of being a tour guide ever since I was little and living in a country recognized for its tourism, I saw this as a realistic, attainable goal, but my plans drastically changed when I started dating and fell in love.
Before I knew it, I was making wedding arrangements and preparing to start a family and raise children of my own. Although I had dreams of my own and things that I wanted to achieve, I slowly came to the realization that being a mom and raising a family was my new dream that I wanted to carry out the rest of my life.
I wanted to a mom that was present, for my husband and for my children when they needed me, a mom that was 100% committed to looking out for the well-being of her family and dedicated to being the best mom she could be.
“As a teenager, I had to see my father go through a very difficult illness. Although I was young and unsure of what career to pursue, this made me want to study anything in the medical field. I had a lot of friends that ended up in nursing school and even though I did not necessarily like the hospital setting, I slowly developed a desire to help others through nursing in that capacity.
I studied at junior college and went on the the university where I began to take a serious interest in anatomy and physiology where I got to do lab work and even observe cadavers. Despite all of this, I had been in a long distance, very serious relationship for quite some time with a man I truly loved, and we both wanted to take things to the next level.
Getting married at the young age of 21, I knew that I wanted to start a family and dedicate myself to my husband. Nursing school was very expensive and that it was going to very difficult to continue. Although I had a true passion to be a nurse, I decided to give up this dream and devote myself completely to being a wife, a mother, and a full-time housekeeper.”
“My dream all along was to be a watercolor painter. When I was young I just did it as a hobby and really enjoyed doing it, but did not have much time to dedicate to it considering my other responsibilities, obligations, and other time-consuming, day-to-day activities that a lot of times prevented me from doing the things I truly had a passion for.
As a young mother, I had to dedicate myself 100% to raising children and being the best mom I knew how to be, unfortunately this involved putting my painting dream on hold for awhile. However, I did not let go of this dream and never let it slip away. After many years of being a completely dedicated mom and housekeeper, I have picked up right where I left off.
Today I am working my way to reaching this goal by taking watercolor painting classes every weekend. My children are all mature, grown up, and do not need the attention and care that they used to. I want to keep painting and improving, and one day wish to open up my very own art gallery.”
“For me, animals, right from the beginning, always played a very important role in my life ever since I was a little girl. I grew up with lots of cats and dogs running all around the house, precisely what gave birth to a true passion for taking care of them.
Although animals require a lot of special time and care, to me it was always a pleasure, never a chore or a burden. Unfortunately, this passion and my dream for working with animals was put on the back burner as I became a mom at a young age and was forced to commit to my children. With a lot of work and the monotonous, day-to-day routine of having to be a mom, I just didn’t have time to pursue goals of my own.
Now that time has passed and my children are all grown up, I want to have an animal refuge of my own or work as a voluntary in some type of shelter. I just wants to be surrounded by animals, and now I have the time to make this dream from years ago become a reality.”
“I became a mom at the young age of 25 and even though I would not trade my 4 year old daughter for anything in the world, I still have a dream that has been on my personal bucket list for many many years that I have yet to fulfill. For years my one big dream has been traveling, more specifically the desire to backpack across Asia and India.
Unfortunately, I cannot think about this dream being that my little daughter is just now starting school. I have left this as a pending task on my bucket list and I will never forget about accomplishing it. I truly look forward to the day I will be able to make this dream come true.”
“Before having my two children I worked in a bank. There were many careers in college that interested me, but my mom did not have the money to help pay for my education and during that time I could work as a teller in a bank with just a high school diploma. My big dream was always to travel, beyond being able to study in college, I would have loved to move and live in another country, learn another language and start a completely new life there.
However, I had to put that on pause to raise my two children. When you begin to have a family, it is extremely difficult to continue doing things you started years before, whether it is a job or just a simply hobby.
Being a mom and housekeeper is a 24/7 job and it takes a lot of time away that I could spend doing things that I love and enjoy. And even when your children are big and all grown up, you feel like so many years have passed and that it is too late to pursue the things you have a true passion for.”
“I got married when I was only 18 years old with an extreme anxiousness to get out of the house and partly because of spite and bitterness from a past relationship. I barely graduated from high school so I didn’t have to abandon any job just to raise my children and dedicate myself to my family.
I made the decision to get married at such a young age, however, now that so many years have passed since then, I now realize that I should have waited and first discovered who I truly was as a person and the things that I loved and had a passion for. I got married so young that I didn’t give myself time to think about such things. My one dream that I put on pause was to be an event planner.
I have always considered myself a perfectionist when it comes to meticulous detail and everything that is required for organizing events or parties. I do practice this as a hobby, organizing birthday parties for grandchildren or other family festivities, but I still have the burning passion to be able to do this as a professional career. Could it be that it is too late?”
Even though it might not seem like it and even though they may do a pretty good job of hiding it, ALL moms have a secret bucket list with things they want to accomplish and dreams that they want to make come true, but when YOU became their first priority and they decided to commit to raising a family, those dreams took a back seat. All that you are today you owe to her, and now it is time to inspire her and give her that little extra push she needs to bring those dreams back life again and show her that it is never too late to pursue the things that she has always longed to achieve.
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